Sunday, November 3, 2013

Answers to Discussion Questions of 'If I Stay' by Gayle Forman

1. The story opens with school being close because of inclement weather and Mia’s family deciding to take a trip to visit friends and relatives. Describe the mood of the morning. What role does this scene play when tragedy hits?

Personally, snowy and rainy mornings are weathers that signify sleep for me, turning my hibernation switch on so I can lie on my bed, maybe enjoy a cup of tea and then doze off into my subconscious. As I have learned, especially on my Contemporary World Literature subject, a literary piece’s weather setting has a great significance to how the flow of the story play off. The weather in the first part might have been an omen of what will the events turn about.

The role of the tempestuous weather has a great factor in the accident the family has gone through. Without it, the family could have avoided colliding with another moving vehicle due to the slippery concrete.

2. After the initial tragedy, the reader learns more about Mia’s parents. What does Mia have in common with her father? Her mother?

First of all, the most common trait she has with both parents is her love of music, even if it is of classical genre and not necessarily the same with her parents.

Mia is a cellist and her father was a drummer way back when he was living the rock star life. Personally, I don’t think interest in a musical instrument runs in the blood. Like my family, I play the violin and a little bit of piano, whereas my mother doesn’t but had dreamt of strumming the guitar when she was in her adolescent stages, father is a master guitarist along with my brother and my sister is learning the piano.

As for her mother, Mia must have taken her guts and strength as seen on how long she had held on after the incident.

3. Mia’s grandparents play an influential role in her life. What do each of them give her? How are these relationships similar? Different? How have they influenced Mia’s father?

Mia’s grandparents had the typical treatment towards her and Teddy. They were very supportive of Mia, even too pushy. The delegation of Juilliard to her by her grandma showed how much her grandparents saw how great her talents was to deem her worthy of the prestigious music school, even when Mia doubts her own skills. Even if it was entirely her grandma’s plan and she was excited to accompany Mia yet some untoward accident happened to her, Mia’s grandfather volunteered for the job without any hesitations. These actions are similar in a way because of their undying support for Mia and in a way, when Mia’s father finally realized that his age is kicking in and that a new family will be adding up, he had to be a father like his own.

4. Mia has two important peer relationships in the story – with her best friend, Kim, and her boyfriend Adam. Kim and Adam are distant with each other. Is Mia’s reaction to their coolness toward each other normal?

Kim and Adam belonged to different cliques and at the adolescent stage, it’s hard to blend in with a certain clique you are not part of. That’s what happened between Kim and Adam. Adam was a rock music person while Kim was mostly opinionated and doesn’t necessarily need to be labeled.

In my opinion, it was normal for Mia to have her two favorite people to at least like and hang out with each other. If it were me, I’d do the same so that it won’t be hard to hang out with the both of them at the same time. And also, when a person loves someone, that person would want them to meet the other people they love.

5. Mia and Adam have different musical interests. Mia loves classical music and plays the cello. Adam plays in a popular rock band. What draws them together?

Music is like the very language we people talk, only instruments interpret them for us. And like our own language, music has its own varieties. When Chinese language can have Mandarin and Cantonese, it’s the same with music having classical music and rock music. Nevertheless, it is still the same kind but with difference in how people interpret them.

As a violinist, I am very familiar with a few of classical pieces by earlier composers yet I do enjoy the music produced by Avril Lavigne and some other contemporary rock bands like Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. I am very eclectic in my taste in music which sometimes confuses me because there are days that I love this particular genre, and other days, another one. In a way, these two genres were never really different from each other, just how people prefer to listen to it like the Canon in classical mode and the Canon in rock mode.

6. Mia struggles to fit in Adam’s group. For Halloween, Mia goes all out and surprises him by dressing as a rocker chick. What is Adam’s reaction? Explain.

Adam’s reaction was just the same as if nothing special happened which drove Mia to the verge of tearing up. If I were to put myself in Adam’s shoes, I can see why he felt the way he felt. He loved her for who she was, a little awkward but also knows fun at times. These were one of those times, no mushy feelings just as if everything is normal which can be very infuriating for a woman, especially if that woman has made an effort to put in a nice outcome.

7. Discuss the meanings of “sacrifice” and “choice”. How are they different? How are they similar?

According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, sacrifice means a destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else, while choice means, the act of choosing; selection.

Both are different because sacrifice is commonly used when choosing between two things that are dear to the person making the decision whilst choice is the perfect option between two things that are not necessarily at par with each other when it comes to their gravity to the person in decision.

Both are similar in ways that something must be given up to make a choice. Sometimes, the choice might be a tough one but can do good for the wellness of everyone while sometimes they don’t.

8. The themes of sacrifice and choice occur throughout the story and play out in several relationships. Is Mia’s father’s giving up his own music because of his children a sacrifice or choice?

Definitely a choice. He’s not really giving up music, he just had to choose which one will he prioritize more and be devoted to one hundred percent. Like the saying goes, “one cannot serve two master at once” and it has proven quite correct in most cases.

In life, we only have one choice among many crossroads that we will be undertaking. Sometimes we need to sacrifice things too, but most of them must be made because we choose them to be.

9. How is Mia’s father a symbol for one person transforming his/her life for another? How does Gramps view his decision? Do Henry and Willow understand why Mia’s father wants to change? What decisions must Adam and Mia consider? Are these choices or sacrifices?

I’ve learned in my first year sociology classes that there was a movement in philosophy that one’s action can definitely affect another’s, I just forgot the name of the movement. But that’s the gist of it all and it is well represented here in Mia’s father’s decision to leave the music scene, pursue graduate studies to have a steady income to provide for his growing family.

Apparently, Gramps wasn’t very much happy about his son’s decision because although he doesn’t like the genre much but he likes to see how his son is so absorbed in his role as the drummer.

After all the ruckus and misunderstandings between Henry and Mia’s father, he realized it when Willow was pregnant and will be forming a family soon. He realized that the decision of Mia’s father was for the best and not merely a spur of the moment thing and to leave behind the memories of the band. He just had to go because he needs to be a father to his growing family.

In the long run, Mia and Adam will have to face the same decisions. The travelling life of a musician can be no fun, what with all-nighters and energy can be depleted by the performance. Somehow, when Mia and Adam decides to settle down in the future, they are going to have to sacrifice things and make  choices.

10. Mia is pulled between wanting to die and wanting to live, so much that she wishes for a “death proxy.” What effect does Gramps’ visit on Mia?

Gramps’ visit to Mia made her contemplate of the decisions she’ll be making sooner because after all, she’s still the one who gets to decide whether she’ll stay or jump on to the other end of life. Her grandfather’s visit had her thinking that she doesn’t want to do the decisions and is she could she’d replace another to have her place so she won’t be on the status she’s in.
  
11. Kim says to Mia, “You still have a family.” What did this mean to you? What is family?

It may seem that Mia lost her family to the untoward accident but in the lighter side, she still has her caring grandparents, relatives, Kim and Adam. It would mean the world to me, to be accepted by others even when you are totally broken and cannot be fixed. Some people just don’t want to lose special people in their lives.

To me, family is the basic unit of the community. Without it there would be no community. My mother likes to call us a ‘dysfunctional family’ because of the things we’ve been through, nevertheless, I have come to realize that I don’t want another family, I am happy with my own. My family is my source of strength and happiness, without them, I feel alone and does not fit into place. The family I have makes me feel secured and that all I needed in the world to live is them.

12. Adam goes to desperate measures to see Mia for the first time and then stays only a few minutes before racing out. He returns later with some classical music and a headset he puts on Mia. What does this act suggest about his relationship with Mia? Using examples from the story, make a case for Adam’s unconditional love for Mia. Is it possible to make the opposite case?

This relationship suggests that Adam cares for her too much and that possibly maybe, even in a coma state, she’s find her way back when she is introduced to the thing she loved most, classical music.

One case would be the Yo-Yo Ma concert, their first date. Adam went to working for two weeks delivering pizzas just to acquire tickets for a performer he doesn’t even like. This comes to show of his strange determination for a socially aloof girl like Mia. If the tables were turned, I doubt Mia would have done the same thing.

13. How would your response to the story be different if Mia had died?

I don’t think so. I think I’d still feel the same towards the story. The plot had a gravity so strong it might have been a black hole. I’ve finished the book in a day because of the fast pacing and because of how I want to know what happens next. If Mia had died in the end I would probably literally cry. I had to cry because she endured almost a day of pain seeing herself and her loved ones when her light’s going to blow out anyway.

14. Music plays an important role in the story. Cite examples and explain.

One example is Beethoven ‘s Cello sonata 3 which was the song Mia was listening when the accident happened. It accompanied the demise of their family and somehow made the incident more dramatic than it actually is. Accidents happen in a flash, but the songs tend to make a slow version of the accident.

15. What meaning can you attribute to the song written by Mia’s father? How does it represent in the themes in the story? How does it represent Mia’s life? That of her father? Her mother? The lives of their family friends Henry and Willow?

The meaning I can attribute to the song is that the person has already decided to leave and people may take notice of his absence but nothing can stop him because it’s long been decided.

It represents that Mia has already made a decision for her life that she chose, also for the rest of her family. Her mother dreamed of dying together with her father, and that decision was fulfilled. Later on, Henry decided that he has to grow up and have to take care of his family too, also with Willow.

16. Do you consider Mia and Adam a mature couple? Why or why not? Do you think Mia and Adam will continue their relationship? What does their future hold?

They are kind of both mature and not. Mature because they have come in terms that they have to understand each other but also otherwise because they cannot seem to openly converse with each other about their pressing situation.

I think they will have to face the situation sooner and have to decide on how to approach the matter.

17. Discuss the use of point of view in the story. To continue the first-person, present-tense point of view introduced in the opening scene, the writer has Mia narrate the story in an unusual way. Why might the author have chosen this technique instead of writing the story from a third-person point of view?

The writer must have taken advantage of this style so that the reader can simulate better, putting one’s shoes in Mia’s place and so that the story would be felt by the heart.

Usually, when I read in a third-person point of view, I feel like I’m just an onlooker, no one special, just a reader. But when I read in first-person point of view, I feel like I am the star of the show, I am the driver of the car, not just someone riding shotgun.

18. Forman makes extended use of flashback to tell the story. Explain how flashback scenes help us to understand Mia’s thoughts about living or dying.

The story started with the onset of the accident, there won’t be anything to tell afterwards so the author must do flashbacks so that there will be a story. So that whatever Mia is doing in the current situation, there would be back up reasons as to why she’s thinking or doing that.

Flashbacks help readers to understand a situation better so that the readers could put the pieces together and solve the puzzles.

19. Could the story have been called If I Leave? Why or why not?

If I Leave would have a negative implication on the story. That would mean Mia is more inclined to dying rather than staying alive. It would most likely end up where Mia ultimately dies of complications of the collision.

If I Stay somehow brightens up the mood of the story, it gives the reader hope that Mia might want to stay longer alive than to die.


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